Wednesday, 27 May 2009

Here is a link to Grant McLachlan's website...

Worth a look if you enjoy wildlife documentaries and films with decent soundtracks!

I am very proud to have a link with such a talented composer.....enjoy listening to the small sample of clips on here.

Monday, 11 May 2009

von Hagens and the mating human corpses...

Here........he's gone and done it!

von Hagens has mated corpses........he said he would.

Sex and death in the ultimate freak show peep show..........

It had to happen. Right now, I am simply shaking my head in disbelief.

I have decided that they must be NECROSEXUAL...............heheheeeee!

Tuesday, 5 May 2009

Allowed Grief

Over the years, I have seen a lot of ways of dealing with death - some of these have not seemed to me to be helpful. Not only that, I have met plenty of people who carry the long term, still open, scars that they just can't seem to resolve; from deaths that they were not allowed to acknowledge fully as important emotional events.

The British 'stiff-upper-lip' is a case in point. Often I have watched throughout the post-death period - the removal of the deceased from home; family visits to the chapel of rest - and then, while sitting at the back of funeral services as an observer of the unfolding ritual, I have watched those closest to the person in the box, trying all the time to hold it together. Later hearing things said like "I didn't cry - I kept strong for the children", or "I didn't show myself up by crying". It's not only the public grief that was being pushed aside - it was seen as something to be avoided even in private places; within the family and home.

I ask this question....If we feel that we can't cry when our child dies, If we can't cry when our parent dies, If we can't cry when our spouse of 50 years dies; when can we cry?

Grief is sometime seen as a negative emotion - something to be avoided, negated and pushed away. This clip from a very wise man is a how I believe human beings can heal in cases of 'Death Loss and Palliative Care'.

The quotation marks are there because that's what my BA degree is in......actually, we don't need to do a degree in order to realise that the truth is often very simple.

What we need to do, I think, is to remind people that they do not need permission to grieve......